Awhile back, I was having a blah moment, or day, ok maybe a couple of days, - it happens! Anyway, I was venting to Debbie when I said something with the word “need’ like maybe “I really need a break” or “I really need a change” or something along those lines. She responded by suggesting I use the word “want” instead of “need”. I’m not going to do the conversation justice on her part because she was very insightful but I’m trimming down the whole conversation here. She went on to talk about how when I said “need” there was almost a desperation behind it to which I replied “I am desperate that’s why I need this”! At first, honestly, I was getting a little irritated that we were discussing semantics instead of the “need” I had called to vent about in the first place. As we talked it made me realize the reason I don’t use want is because when it’s for myself,” want” doesn’t seem good enough for me to have it. In order for me to make something happen for myself I subconsciously need, I mean "want" it to escalate to “need”. What Debbie was trying to say, or maybe did say, is switching those words changes from a desperation as if something is happening to me to a power to make something happen for myself.
This conversation has stuck with me and especially my reaction to her initial suggestion I use “want” instead of “need”. A book I love “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers” by Debbie Ford talks about how when invoke a strong reaction in you there must be something about them which feels true to yourself.
Over the several weeks since we had the conversation, I’ve been paying attention to when I use and more importantly when I feel the word or think it and I’ve slowly switching gears. For instance each time I actually take a break (even a small one) when” I want a break” vs waiting til it escalates into “I need a break”, I feel like I've taken charge of my own well being! This small change in semantics during those blah times is creating a shift from percieveing something as happening to me to me making something happen for me. BTW, this philosophy reminds of one of my favorite sayings from my dad but it's staying in my back pocket for a future blog ;-)
Sylvia
P.S. As it happens when the law of attraction is in full force - this article came across my view yesterday regarding professional “wantologist” – Click here to read the article.
This conversation has stuck with me and especially my reaction to her initial suggestion I use “want” instead of “need”. A book I love “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers” by Debbie Ford talks about how when invoke a strong reaction in you there must be something about them which feels true to yourself.
Over the several weeks since we had the conversation, I’ve been paying attention to when I use and more importantly when I feel the word or think it and I’ve slowly switching gears. For instance each time I actually take a break (even a small one) when” I want a break” vs waiting til it escalates into “I need a break”, I feel like I've taken charge of my own well being! This small change in semantics during those blah times is creating a shift from percieveing something as happening to me to me making something happen for me. BTW, this philosophy reminds of one of my favorite sayings from my dad but it's staying in my back pocket for a future blog ;-)
Sylvia
P.S. As it happens when the law of attraction is in full force - this article came across my view yesterday regarding professional “wantologist” – Click here to read the article.